Pros and Cons of Chores for My Child

Introduction:

After school, kids fill their time in many different ways. Some jump right into homework, others participate in clubs or sports, and many unwind by playing video games or watching their favorite shows. In some families, chores are a part of their kid’s daily routine. So, what is the best way for kids to spend their time after school? In this blog post, I will be discussing my opinions on chores for children including: pros and cons, appropriate chores, how to reinforce completion of chores, and discuss a good work life balance for kids.

Examples of acceptable chores

When considering chores for kids, it is important to consider the child’s age, skills, and developmental needs. Ask yourself: Is this a reasonable task that my child can complete with few difficulties? Below are some examples of age appropriate chores, though each task depends on the child’s physical and emotional capabilities.

Under 10: Children under 10 can help with household tasks but usually should not be fully responsible for larger or more complex chores. Potential tasks can include folding socks, drying dishes, tidying up spaces, collecting dirty laundry, sweeping/dusting.

Between 10-12: Kids this age can start independently completing tasks including nightly dishes, taking out garbage, sweeping/mopping, cleaning bathrooms, cleaning out cars, raking leaves, letting animals out, feeding animals, folding laundry.

Adolescents (13+): These children can handle larger, multi-step chores such as: doing an entire load of laundry, cooking/baking, mowing the lawn, weekly recurring cleaning tasks, etc

Pros of chores

There are many benefits to children being assigned chores. Here are some examples:

Builds Time Management Skills

When children are consistently expected to complete chores, they naturally learn to manage their time. For instance, they will need to decide if they are going to do their chores before or after homework/dinner. These early experiences support the time-management skills that they will rely on as academics become more demanding or as they navigate adulthood.

Fosters Resilience and Responsibility

Sometimes, chores are hard! And that is okay! Allowing children the space to complete difficult tasks helps them to build resilience and confidence in their own abilities. As you allow yourself to trust them in completing their tasks, they will learn about responsibility and become more independent.

Helps With Family Workload

Sometimes, having your child do chores can be an easy way to take some of the load off of your own plate as a parent. Having a helping hand can allow you to worry about other things at home without needing to micromanage every part of the day. Something as simple as having the dishes done after dinner can help to keep the space tidy and spirits high as you prepare for your next day. It also reinforces the idea that everyone in the family contributes to the workload.

Teaches Real Life Skills

Having chores is a natural part of life. By giving your child chores, you are preparing them for their future as they grow to become independent. As children become more capable, they develop confidence and experience the satisfaction that comes with completing meaningful tasks. Even something as simple as making their bed can help them to feel accomplished.

Cons of chores

Can be Time Consuming

If you assign more difficult chores, they may be time consuming for your child. While chores are important, it is equally important to ensure that your child has time for schoolwork, extracurricular activities, and rest. Children need downtime, and overwhelming them with tasks can crest unnecessary stress or frustration.

Low Motivation

Introducing chores is not always smooth. Children may complain, argue, or test boundaries… especially if the chores are new. This can feel emotionally draining for parents who are trying to establish more structure. Remember that consistency over time can make it easier to keep set expectations.

Children May Need More Support

Though having children do chores can help out with the workload at home, it can also be more time consuming for parents initially. If your child is nervous about chores, doesn’t yet know how to do them, or is younger, they are going to need guidance the first few times that they do chores. Parents will need to model expectations and provide initial reassurance.

Potential reinforcers for chores

Giving your child a reward for completing chores can help with consistency and motivation. Below are examples of different ways to motivate your child to do their chores that are cost effective.

-       No screen time until they complete their chores

-       Money or an allowance

-       Getting to choose a movie or show after chores

-       Getting to spend time with friends only after chores are completed

-       Earing points towards a larger reward or privilege

What about homework?

Homework is always important! Homework should not be overshadowed by household tasks. Your child shouldn’t feel like they are unable to complete their schoolwork because they have too many chores. Additionally, it is important to allow your child time to rest and relax. Children… especially those with demanding schedules… need time to recharge. Balancing expectations helps kids feel understood and supported!

Written By,

Jordan Adamson, LPC

www.cuttingedge-therapy.com